CHAPTER 11: Men's Resources for Change
1. Books
Fairy Tales and Myths
King Warrior Magician Lover. Moore and Gillette. HarperCollins.
New York. 1990. Many positive images of men and a sympathetic
analysis of our psyches.Iron John. Robert Bly. Harper and Row.
New York. 1990. The book that came from the material that started
it all. How can you miss it? (order on-line)
The Complete Fairy Tales of the Brothers Grimm. Jack Zipes, translation.
Bantam Books. 1987. The seminal work of the Grimms, seedbed of
story lines and images. (order on-line)
Sociology-History
Warrior's Journey Home: Healing Men, Healing the Planet. Jed Diamond.
New Harbinger. Oakland. 1994. A book that inspires change and
outlines a plan to get from here to there. This book provides
an thoughtful analysis of violence and addiction, and shows how
men can heal from these habits, from a pioneer in the men's movement. Order hardcover on-line Save 30% Order softcover on-line Save 20% Interviedw with Jed Diamond about this book: "Warriors and the Planet"
Manhood in the Making. David Gilmore. Yale University Press. 1990.Another
sympathetic analysis of how men are trained to be the way we are.
Fascinating, slightly academic and intelligent. (order on-line)
Ritual
Of Water and the Spirit. Malidoma Somé. Tarcher-Putnam. 1994.
An African shaman with a Western education describes his life
in these two worlds. Order on-line: Book
Audio Cassette
Betwixt and Between: Patterns of Masculine and Feminine Initiation.
Louis Mahde, Stephen Foster and Meredith Little, eds. Open Court
Publishing. 1987. An anthology of articles and descriptions of
personal and tribal initiations, with information about how to
create our own. (order hardcover on-line) (order trade paperback on-line)
Spiritual Life
Healing into Life and Death. Stephen Levine. Doubleday. 1987.
A road map on how to work with illness, death and loss. Many valuable
guided meditations. (order on-line) (audio cassette)
A Path with Heart. Jack Kornfield. Bantam. 1993. Stories, autobiographical
and otherwise, by a leading western teacher of Buddhism. A man
with heart has chosen inspirational stories and teachings to help
us wake up to living life with attention and compassion. (order on-line)
Poetry
News of the Universe. Robert Bly, ed. Sierra Club Books. 1980.
A seminal collection of poetry on nature, mysticism, love and
death, organized around Bly's thesis that nature poetry is re-emerging
as a vital stream in Western poetry, after centuries of misuse
and ignorance. (order on-line) (audio cassette)
Rag and Bone Shop of the Heart. Robert Bly, James Hillman and
Michael Meade, eds. Harper Collins. 1992. A collection of poetry
loved by men who have attended workshops with these three important
teachers. (order on-line)
Relationship
Conscious Loving. Gay Hendricks, PhD. and Katie Hendricks, PhD.
Bantam. 1990. Excellent text for understanding body-oriented healing
and for practicing truthtelling and non-blaming conversations.
See especially the exercises in the back of the book. (order on-line)
2. Video:
A Gathering of Men. Bill Moyers. PBS. A poignant interview with
Robert Bly explaining his work with men, intercut with workshop
footage of men talking with each other and Bly.
3. Web resources
Check out MenWeb's listing of resources for men on the Web.
4. Men's Centers
The best place to find a current listing of centers in your area
is:
Menstuff:The National Men's Resource Calendar
MAS Medium Co.
Box 882
San Anselmo Ca 94960-0882
Phone Line: 415-453-2839. This quarterly has ceased hard-copy publication, but the information is now available on the Web.
This project of maintaining information on these groups is a massive
on and all praise is due to Gordon Clay for his work on this.
MenWeb has a listing of men's centers and men's councils as well. Click here to see it.
The following is a list of centers which I am personally aware
of:
West Coast Regional Centers
Bay Area Men's Centers:
Berkeley
Berkeley Men's Center
2925 Shattuck Ave.
Berkeley CA 94705
415-644-0107
Marin County
Echo Rock Therapy Center Men's Program
45 Camino Alto
Mill Valley Ca 94941
415-388-0333
Coordinator: George Taylor.
Santa Rosa, Sonoma County
Redwood Men's Center
705 College Ave.
Santa Rosa, CA
707-575-0550
East Coast
John Guarnaschelli
On the Common Ground
250 W. 57 St. #1527
New York, NY 10107
Here are some numbers I'm reprinting from Gordon.
Seattle Men's Wisdom Council. 206-454-1189
Portland Resource Center. 503-235-3433
Los Angeles Lost Dog Men's Council. 310-475-1069
Midwest
Men's Council Project
Box 17341
Boulder CO 80301-0431
303-444-7741
5. Publications and Periodicals
Men's Voices Journal. 7552 31st Ave. NE, Seattle WA 98115 (quarterly, $20/4 issues)
Brother to Brother. P.O. Box 1876, Nevada City Ca 95959
Journal of Men's Studies. Box 32, Harriman TN 37748. ($30)
Men's Center of Los Angeles Newsletter. 213-276-9598. $10
