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Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say

Destroying Myths, Creating Love

by Warren Farrell
Introduction to the book, comparison of it to Susan Faludi's Stiffed, press release info, and book reviews and comments from


Warren Farrell, Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say: Destroying Myths, Creating Love (New York, NY: Tarcher/Putnam, 1999). Order on-line Audio Cassette

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Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say: Destroying Myths, Creating Love
by Warren Farrell
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In the introduction Warren tells us a bit about his personal story, and how this book evolved out of his earlier books The Liberated Male, Why Men Are the Way They Are and The Myth of Male Power. He also provides an overall view of what the book is about. Here are brief excerpts of Warren's comments about that:

Some women say, when a man speaks up, that he must be a woman-hater. Thatís one of the hurdles. For a man thatís perhaps the most painful one because he is speaking up so his love for a woman can be more genuine. He feels like heís been hit below the belt, like women wanting to hear his feelings is a fraud. But for some women, criticism does feel like hatred. She has just expressed her feeling.

The first part of this book is about helping both sexes know how to take potentially destructive mutual misunderstandings like that and turn them into love. Ultimately this book is about both sexes speaking and both sexes listening in a radically different way. But prior to the "ultimately" there are reasons men are the silent sex, and men need to let women know their intent when they make a transition from suppression to expression.

Part II does more than give us examples of myths that create anger toward men Ė it makes us aware of what we need to ask before we can determine whether we are being told the full truth when we hear the news. Why, for example, do we believe that men batter women more than women batter men when weíve had extensive research to the contrary for a quarter century? Clarifying these myths is like cleaning filters, allowing us to breathe the air but not the pollution, like the thresher that separates the wheat from the chaff.

Part III allows us to see the results of that anger in the form of man-bashing, and the biases of the institutions that disseminate it: what I will call "The Lace Curtain."6 The Lace Curtain is the tendency of most major institutions to interpret gender issues from only a feminist perspective, or from a combination of feminist and female perspectives. As we look closely at the anger, it is apparent what women are angry about and what we can do about it so our children donít inherit it.

Top Ten Predictions About Women and Men

Here are Warren's Top Ten Predictions from the book.

Book Review

Here's a book review by J. Steven Svoboda.

Comparing Warren Farrell to Susan Faludi

Here's an article comparing Warren Farrell's writing to Susan Faludi's new book Stiffed

Book description and reviews

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Book Review in USA Today
It opens:
Author Warren Farrell considers men guilty co-conspirators in creating an atmosphere of man-bashing and misdirected feminism that he thinks is poisoning relations between the sexes: "Men have learned to define power as being obligated to earn money that someone else spends, while they die sooner," Farrell says, "and no woman would be stupid enough to call that power."

His new book, Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say, says enough to offend both sexes. But he doesn't care.

Warren Farrell will appear with Susan Faludi on The Leeza Show. The show is being taped on Oct. 28th.


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