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Battered Men - The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence
835,000 men battered each year, silent too long ...


Help for Battered Men

Resources for battered men
  Help is available

  Are You Battered or Abused?

  Why Men Don't Do Anything About It

  Why Men Don't Get Help? A therapist also a victim of domestic violence answers.

  What You Can Do

  Washington Centers that Serve Men

  Other Centers that Serve Men

  On-line Help and Support

What is Abuse?

On-line pamphlet for men

The Male Victim

Ultra-Sensitive Men and Abuse

Borderline Personality Disorder

Handling Anger

Washington Court Info
Overview DV order process; on-line forms

Latest Research Findings

Battered Men, Women Batterers
  Violence Against Women SurveyFull Rpt.
National Institute of JusticeNational Violence Against Women survey (National Institute of Justice/Centers for Disease Control) estimates 1.5 million women and 835,000 men battered each year.

  The risks men face
Bert H. HoffNational Violence Against Women survey (National Institute of Justice/Centers for Disease Control) shows that assaults by women are dangerous. Assaulted men more likely than women to be knifed, hit with an object. A re-look at NVAW survey data. Bert H. Hoff

  Violence Against Women SurveyLegal system response
National Institute of JusticeFor men: 13% reported, 1.6% arrests, no convictions, no jail time, 3.5% restraining orders.

  Statistics Canada report
UK flag44% of DV victims are men. In current relationships men as more likely to be victims of domestic violence.

  British Home Office report
UK flagMen as likely to be victims of domestic violence as women, according to a major British Home Office research study.

  Exploding Myths about ER data
     Data from NIJ, CDC refute myths that DV is leading cause of injury to women or causes more injuries than rape, auto accidents, and muggings combined. More than twice as many women visit ERs due to being injured by an animal than by a male partner.

  Controversy over DV by Women
     Leading researcher Dr. Murray A. Straus critiques the recent National Violence Against Women Survey, offers insights into the "politics" of domestic violence and whether the controversy will ever end.

  Why Women Batter
Dr. Martin FiebertDr. Martin Fiebert and Denise Gonzalez. It's about power and control more than reaction to abuse--same as for men. "He wasn't sensitive to my needs." "I wanted my partner's attention." "He wasn't listening."

  College men nearly as likely to be victims of unwanted sexual coercion
     So says a new study at the University of Washington. Here's the press release about it.

  Men's Reactions to Female Sexual Coercion
Psychiatric Times One of the long-standing myths about sexual coercion is that a woman cannot make a man have sex with her.

    more research...


Facts and Myths

Auburn, WA Muni Court:
Using the system to batter the victim

Battered Men's Stories

  Real men, real stories
     in these men's own words.

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  Perpetrators, Victims, Survivors
     A woman seeks help for her own violence.
  Violent Femmes
     At first I would switch off whenever I saw a report about domestic violence. I knew I was about to be subjected to yet another pungent vilification of men and their propensity to beat women."Hey, what about guys like me?".
  Batterer treatment
     It wasn't relevant that she has assaulted six men. "I beat the shit out of them." Hitting a tree head on would have freed my wife and children of the bastard that I was and left no trace of my miserable life.
  Using the system to batter
    Battering is emotional and psychological, as well as physical. It's about control, like using the system to impoverish him and keep him from the kids.
  Restraining orders as abuse
    Women routinely abuse restraining orders, says Cathy Young.

  More women arrested
    What does it mean? Experts quoted in the media differ sharply.

Family Violence--
It's About People

  835,000 men a year
     according to latest National Violence Against Women Survey. One every 38 seconds.

  It's Always His Fault
     Yale psychiatrist Sally L. Satel. Gender polarization in perpetrator programs reflects feminist ideology.

  Hitting below the belt
     Easy to get, hellish to deal with, restraining orders have become the ultimate weapon in domestic disputes, says Cathy Young in Salon.

  Deadlier Than the Male
     So says UK author Melanie Phillips, about violent women.

  The Gender Neutrality Joke
     Services only for women.

  Blaming the victim
    No excuse for violence, unless you're a woman, perpetrator programs teach.

     Only men need pledge against violence.

  Police Training
     Evaluator finds police largely unpersuaded by feminist perspective.

"I'm ashamed for what I did ...

Gender Focus on Men Hurts Women

Maybe if TV star Phil Hartman's wife had received help, she wouldn't have killed him and herself. But battering women are told they're the victim.

  I'm Ashamed for What I Did
     Detroit News Spotlight on the Female Abuser

  Radical feminists agree
that women's experiences are trivialized. Suzanne Steinmetz.

  What About the Women?
     How Many Domestic Violence Awareness Advocates Discriminate Against Women. Phil Cook, author of Abused Men


Dating Violence
Unwanted sex, Assault

Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence - order online  Insult to Injury: Rethinking our Responses to Intimate Abuse - Order online
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Lies by Omission:
WA DV Coalition Gender-Polarizes a People Issue

Blaming Men
The Faulty Duluth Model

  What's Wrong with the Duluth Model?
     Blame and shame, not help. Ideology, not science. Ignores drinking, drugs, pathology, violence by women. One cause, one solution. Taught by "wounded healers." Gender-polarizing-perpetrates the "battle of the sexes"
  A Gender-Neutral Duluth Model
     For female perpetrators - a different "Duluth Model."
  Insult to Injury
     Book: Women's aggression part of picture; Restorative justice, not blame and shame
  Duluth Model Successfully Challenged
     Programs gets North Carolina regulation mandating Duluth Model set aside
  It's Such Bullshit
     Anger Management for Men is Such Bullshit. It made me suicidal
  It's About Male Oppression of women
     preaches the "Duluth Model."
  Domestic Violations
     Cathy Young. Where there's mutual violence, joint counseling offers the best solution. But it's not allowed.
  Why Women Batter
     "He wasn't sensitive to my needs." "He wasn't listening."
  DV as a "hate" crime
Cathy YoungCathy Young. Proposed Federal Hate Crimes Act would add penalties if men abuse. It's already happened in 17 states.


  Abused Men
     The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence
Phil Cook, author of Abused Men

  Domestic Violence: A Two-Way Street
Glenn J. SacksGlenn Sacks
Familial violence by and against both men and women is a serious problem in a violence-wracked America, but it is a problem for which both men and women share responsibility.

  She hits, he hurts: Women batter men
Kathleen ParkerKathleen Parker, Orlando Sentinel
Are feminists fudging to protect coveted funding? It seems only fair we should listen to men too.

  Working with Violent Women
     Erin Pizzey, founder of the first modern battered women's shelter in the world.

  No excuse for domestic violence. Period
Cathy YoungCathy Young. The Detroit News series on battered men generated a flurry of mail. Cathy Young wrote a column about the responses.

  Prone to Violence
     Erin Pizzey's book on violent women, the one for which she and publisher received death threats.

  Super Bowl Sunday myth
     The real story.

In the Media

Press coverage on battered men and violent women.

Ireland Ahead of US
Check out Battered Men: An International Concern

Related: Sex Abuse Survivors section.


Links to other info on the Web
Including media coverage of the topic
S.A.F.E. logo
ABC News Special ReportMetro: Silicon Valley WeeklyNovaNewsNetUK Channel 4 logoMother Jones November/December 1994 cover


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