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Contributions from Lou Owen

 

 

One of the focuses of the MenWeb Men's Community newsgroup (click here to check it out) is on positive images of masculinity, at a time where many men feel a shame of male for being male. Here are two contributions by Lou Owen, a man from the Upper Peninsula of Michigan who is a regular contributor to our newsgroup.

Lou Owen
Lou Owen
I post this from time to time to remind myself of what we guys are and are about.

A few good things about men:

Relationship
Men teach and learn from others

Men coach and encourage

Men compliment

Men are peacemakers and negotiators

Men mediate, arbitrate and facilitate

Men comfort and nurture

Men enjoy solitude and companionship

Men are good friends

Men can keep a confidence

Men are faithful, sincere and decent

Men take pride in their achievements

Men try to make their community safe

Men are philanthropic and generous

Men are helpful, kind and thoughtful

Men are compassionate and sympathetic

Men cheer people up when they are down

Men are tender and gentle

Men are loving

Men debate and discuss

Men like fair play

Men like joking with others

Men entertain others

Men protect and rescue others from harm

Men sacrifice themselves for their family

Men sacrifice their lives for the greater good

Men co-operate

Men are good parents

Men lead others

Men are patient

Men are honorable

Men are honest

Men create laws to protect others

Men are tolerant and accepting of others

Men are good listeners

Men counsel

Men work together in a crisis

Men respect themselves and others

Men value all life and appreciate nature

Action
Men are decisive

Men get things done

Men are practical

Men are organizers

Men transform

Men like to fix things

Men motivate and inspire

Expression
Men are exuberant

Men are free-spirited and playful

Men are charismatic

Men like to celebrate

Men are spiritual

Men have deep feelings

Men are open and expressive

Men communicate directly

Men are witty

Men move people with their words

Men are passionate

Men enjoy sex

Men are artistic

Men create and build

Thought
Men question and seek knowledge

Men search for meaning in their lives

Men are resourceful, adaptable and flexible

Men try to create order in a chaotic world

Men are wise and understanding

Men like to know how things work

Men invent and innovate

Men like intellectual games and rules

Men hypothesize and solve problems

Men are analytical and strategic

Men are philosophical

Men are planners and forward thinkers

Men reason logically

Men are smart

Men keep things in perspective

Men hope for a better world

Strength
Men are responsible

Men provide security and stability

Men are self-reliant and independent

Men can endure great pain

Men can restrain themselves

Men are calm in a catastrophe

Men are resilient

Men are dependable and trustworthy

Men are courageous and heroic

Men stand up for what they believe

Men are solid, stoical and firm

Men fight for a good cause

Men are disciplined

Men admit to their mistakes

Men work with danger, dirt and discomfort

Men have stamina, drive and determination

Men focus and concentrate

Men are hard workers

Men use their power for the good of others

Physicality
Men are physically co-ordinate and agile

Men explore and discover

Men enjoy physical activity and games

Men like clowning around and having fun

Men take risks

Men like to hone their skills in competition

Men are physically strong

Lou

I do not know the source of the quote. I came upon it years ago. I first saw it under the name "The good man project."

From Moby Dick:

Men may seem detestable as joint-stock companies and nations; knaves, fools, and murderers there may be; men may have mean and meagre faces; but man, in the ideal, is so noble and so sparkling, such a grand and glowing creature, that over any ignominious blemish in him all his fellows should run to throw their costliest robes. That immaculate manliness we feel within ourselves -- so far within us, that it remains intact though all the outer character seem gone -- bleeds with keenest anguish at the undraped spectacle of a valour-ruined man. Nor can piety itself, at such a shameful sight, completely stifle her upbraidings against the permitting stars. But this august dignity I treat of, is not the dignity of kings and robes, but that abounding dignity which has no robed investiture. Thou shalt see it shining in the arm that wields a pick or drives a spike; that democratic dignity which, on all hands, radiates without end from God Himself! The great God absolute! The centre and circumference of all democracy! His omnipresence, our divine equality!"

Remember, gentlemen, no matter how the world would seek to cut you down, to ruin your valour, you are as Melville said, "a grand and glowing creature"..."noble and sparkling"...

Lou

 

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