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Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say

Destroying Myths, Creating Love

by Warren Farrell
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Book Description
The bestselling author of Why Men Are the Way They Are and The Myth of Male Power now shows couples how to break through the unseen barriers to male communication constructed by society, families, and our culture.

"Farrell continues to open genuine communication between the sexes."--Anthony Robbins, author of Awaken the Giant Within

This revolutionary, hands-on guide will cast more illumination on relationships and the issues men face than any book since the author's groundbreaking bestseller Why Men Are The Way They Are ("The most important book ever written about love, sex, and intimacy"--New York Post).

In Women Can't Hear What Men Don't Say, therapist and relationship expert Warren Farrell takes couples step-by-step through the environment of the home, media, educational system, and other institutions to carefully reveal unseen mechanisms each of us encounter daily that disrupt male-female communication and obscure men's own feelings.

Farrell provides a remarkable and easy-to-follow communication program that will bring couples beyond present barriers at home and in the workplace, and will allow them to speak and understand each other more fully than ever. His book helps all men and women achieve a better knowledge of their partners, themselves, and the surrounding sexual culture.

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About the Author
Warren Farrell, Ph.D., is the only man ever elected three times to the Board of the National Organization for Women, New York City. He is the author of The Liberated Man, Why Men Are the Way They Are, and The Myth of Male Power. He lives in San Diego.


Shocking and provocative! Warren Farrell has the gift of compelling us to look at old problems with new eyes. He challenges countless popular assumptions with a devastatingly persuasive picture of reality. Most important, he points the way to urgently needed solutions.

óNathaniel Branden; Author, My Years with Ayn Rand

Dr. Warren Farrell is one of the most original thinkers of our time.

óNancy Friday, best-selling author of seven books, including the recent Our Looks, Our Lives

You can hardly read a sentence in this fascinating book without thinking: "Really? I didnít know that!" Warren Farrell is a true pioneer.

óBernard Goldberg, Reporter, CBS Newsí 48 Hours

Warren Farrell has given us a gift by writing Women Canít Hear What Men Donít Say. He points us to the only way to end the battle of the sexes in the 21st Century.

óKaren DeCrow, Attorney; Former President, National Organization for Women (NOW)

An amazing piece of work! Women Canít Hear What Men Donít Say substitutes illumination for emotion and careful research for skewed statistics. It my hope that the law will hear what men donít say in time for our children to reap the benefit.

óNorman Vroman, District Attorney, Mendocino County, CA

Bursting with provocative data ... Farrellís specific prescriptions for better communication make it must reading.

óHoward M. Halpern, Ph.D.; Former President, American Academy of Psychotherapists; Author, How to Break Your Addiction to a Person

I learned more from the first 100 pages of this book than from anything Iíve ever read about how to communicate in a relationship. For the first time in my life I know how to have a meaningful conversation with a man that will actually bring him closer. I plan to re-read the first 100 pages once a month for at least the first five years of my marriage.

óCathy Guisewite, syndicated cartoonist, Cathy

Wow!! Women Canít Hear What Men Donít Say made me open up and share with my wife parts of myself I didnít even know existed. Iíve discovered new strengths within myself, and I know our love will be stronger.

óDom DeLuise, actor and comedian

Iím saying Ė no Iím shouting Ė to women and men to read this book. Warren Farrell is a true Renaissance man with penetrating insights and laser-accurate perspectives who sees both the Yin and the Yang. He is our spokesperson not merely to women, but more poignantly to our own male souls which we have been so afraid to expose and share.

óDenis Waitley, Ph.D., author, The Psychology of Winning

No book digs deeper than Women Canít Hear What Men Donít Say to help us discover menís hidden stories. It is a brilliant book!

óJack Canfield, co-author, Chicken Soup for the Soul

Brave, brilliant, and filled with startling information that will forever change the way you look at both men and women! Dr. Warren Farrell is the rare person who truly has deep compassion for both sexes. Essential reading.

óSusan Jeffers, Ph.D., author, Feel the Fear...And Do it Anyway

Perceptive.... Outspoken.... Courageous. Replace the handcuffs of political correctness with understanding and dialogue.

óMartin Edelston, President, Boardroom, Inc. and Editor, Bottom Line/Personal


Dr. Warren Farrell is the author of many books, including two award-winning international best-sellers, Why Men Are The Way They Are and The Myth of Male Power. His most recent is Women Canít Hear What Men Donít Say, a selection of the Book-of-the-Month Club. His books are published in over 50 countries, and in 9 languages.

Dr. Farrell listens to both sexes: On the one hand, he has served on the boards of four national menís and fathersí organizations; and on the other, he is the only man in the US to ever have been elected three times to the Board of Directors of the National Organization for Women (N.O.W.) in New York City. Dr. Farrell is also the only person selected to speak at former California Governor Wilsonís Conference on Men as well as his Conference on Women.

Over a period of twenty-five years, Warren has formed over 600 womenís and men's groups and has worked with more than a quarter million men and women from all walks of life. The Chicago Tribune described Warren as "the Gloria Steinem of Men's Liberation." The Boston Globe calls him "the sage of the menís movement." Take your pick.

Dr. Farrellís Ph.D. in political science and background in sex and gender has led to his teaching in political science, psychology, medicine, sociology, sexual politics, public administration, and womenís studies. He has taught at the School of Medicine at the University of California in San Diego, as well as at Georgetown University, Rutgers, Brooklyn College, American University, and the California School of Professional Psychology. He has consulted for AT&T, IBM, Toyota, Bell Atlantic, Revlon, Ogilvy and Mather, NASA, HUD, the US Air Force, and both the US Departments of Education and Energy.

Warren has appeared eight times on Donahue, and repeatedly on Oprah, The Today Show, Good Morning, America, as well as on ABC World News, Crossfire, and Larry King Live. He has been the subject of special features on 20/20, and in Forbes, The Wall Street Journal, People, and Parade, and is frequently quoted in Time and Newsweek..

Warren Farrell is in Whoís Who in America and Whoís Who in the World (Marquis Millennium edition). He has been selected by Cambridgeís International Biographic Centre as one of the worldís top 2000 scholars of the 20th Century.

Warren currently resides in Encinitas, a seaside community in San Diego's North County. In September, heíll also have a virtual residence at


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